The biggest excuse for not getting results seems totally valid. But it’s not. It’s a cop out. It’s pure justification for whatever junk you wind up scarfing down. And guess what … that junk doesn’t fly here.
Anyone that knows me would probably say that I tend to be one of the most upbeat, keep-it-positive, find-the-silver-lining kind of people you’ll ever meet. That’s just who I am. It’s how I’m wired. But to be a great coach and truly help people overcome hurdles to find success, sometimes it’s necessary to cut through the crap and excuses.
In the past, I used social media for what I called “Tough Love Tuesday” posts. It’s time to go ahead and put your big boy (or girl) pants on, cause that’s exactly what you’re about to get with this blog – a big ol’ heaping dose of tough love!
So what is the biggest excuse I hear for not eating right?
Ohh! I’ve just been so busy!
You wouldn’t believe how crazy this week has been!
My husband/wife has been out of town and it’s been nuts!
I had to work late everyday this week!
The kids had practice eleventeen times this week – Monday, Wednesday, Tuesday, and Friday at 5am for soccer and 7pm for croquet. African Cambogia dancing lessons start next week!
Actually I don’t even live at home anymore. It doesn’t even make sense. I’m only there 37 minutes per day anyway. I’ve put a change of clothes and mouthwash in my car and just go from there.
I get it, I get it. You’re busy. But guess what? So is EVERYBODY else. And you may think you’re way busier than “they” are, but I guarantee I can show you someone twice as busy as you. One person’s busy is another person’s average day.
Parkinson’s Law says that work expands to fill the time available for it’s completion. This explains why we all feel so busy, yet some are tackling 13 different issues before lunch while others can barely squeeze 3 into their entire day. The bottom line remains – regardless of how busy you truly are, you’re going to FEEL busy because your stuff/work expands to fit the time you have available.
So busyness is a problem. My challenge is how, as a coach, can I help people deal with it and succeed. I think I’m going to change my reply to the “busy excuse.” Maybe something like this . . .
Oh wow! That sounds crazy. Bless your heart. Did the “Busy Monster” come shove doughnuts in your mouth? Did he come tie you down and force you to eat hamburgers, pizza, and chips?
Then shut your whining up!
Until the Busy Monster shows up, you have no excuse.
Kidding aside, I always try to be understanding when someone has an out-of-the-blue really busy week. You know what I’m talking about – something that is not the norm and throws a huge wrench in your gears. The problem is – in this day and age of do more than the next person or you suck, it’s easy to use busyness as an excuse to grease our esophagus with french fries, milkshakes, tater chips, and twinkies.
Wait. People USE busyness as an excuse? What?
Yeah, I said it. Sue me.
The truth of all this is – we do what we truly want to do.
Human beings carve out time to do stuff or pursue things they truly desire. For many, getting fit and losing fat sounds awesome, but it’s like a candle from Yankee Candle company – it smells like iced cinnamon roll, but in reality you don’t want to eat it! We love the smell, the idea, the thought of being fit, dropping weight, and looking great in a swimsuit, but we’re just not going to do what it takes to get there.
You may still be shaking your head.
No Corey, you don’t understand. I really am THAT busy.
Maybe you’re right. But I know this – I’ve coached a number of super busy business owners, moms of 3+ kids, and others juggling 17 different things everyday and somehow (even though I’m worried they can’t) they make it work and they can get results.
They plan ahead.
They make smart choices when in a bind.
They plan ahead.
They refuse to eat crap because they’re focused on their goal.
And did I mention they plan ahead?
Honestly, that’s really all it takes.
Three simple things will lead you to success.
- Make the best choice possible when in a bind.
- Refuse to compromise. Don’t say “oh well” and eat crap because, bless your heart, you’re so busy.
- Look ahead at your schedule and PLAN ahead.
To say I’m a big proponent of planning ahead is like saying President Trump might like fake tanners. (Not a political statement, just an attempt at factual humor) If you’d like some help planning Shoot me an email CoreyLittleCoaching [at] gmail.com. I’ll send you a free video about Weight Loss Mistakes I recently did for my private coaching group. It’s all about how to properly plan for nutrition and weight loss success.
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