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On this week’s podcast episode, we’re diving into two crucial words that every great trainer or coach should use regularly: “It depends.” Yes, you heard that right. It’s not “Good job!” or “Keep going!”—though those are important too—but rather, “It depends.” You might be thinking, “That’s it? That’s the big reveal?” But stick with me, because understanding the importance of these words can be a game-changer in your fitness and weight loss journey.
Two Words That Every Great Trainer Or Coach Should Use
The Complexity Behind Simple Answers
Let’s start by acknowledging something important: If you’re someone who craves clear-cut answers—“Eat this, not that!”—or if you’re battling an all-or-nothing mindset, then the phrase “It depends” might feel frustrating. But here’s why it’s crucial: The less someone knows about a particular topic, the simpler it seems. That’s why you often hear overly simplistic advice like “Just eat less and move more.” Sure, that sounds straightforward, but it’s not the full picture.
As Einstein wisely said, “Make things as simple as possible, but not simpler.” A definitive answer might feel good in the moment, offering you a false sense of security, but it may not be helpful or sustainable in the long run. For example, when you hear “Carbs are bad,” it simplifies your world—you’ve found an enemy. But life, nutrition, and human behavior are far more nuanced than that.
Why “It Depends” is the Right Answer
Imagine asking a fitness or nutrition question and receiving a quick, definitive answer. It’s tempting to feel reassured by that certainty. But consider this: A true expert, someone with years of experience and deep knowledge, understands that there are rarely one-size-fits-all solutions. That’s why they’ll often say, “It depends,” and then explain the factors involved—your goals, your current health status, your preferences, your lifestyle, and more.
This is where the magic happens. A good coach knows that what works for one person might not work for another. They’ll take the time to assess your individual situation, consider the complexities of your life, and then provide tailored advice. It’s not about giving you the answer you want to hear; it’s about giving you the answer that’s right for you.
The Problem with Definitive Answers
Why do we crave definitive answers so much? Because they seem to reduce anxiety. Life is full of uncertainties, and our brains naturally seek out black-and-white answers to simplify things. But this desire for simplicity can lead us down the wrong path. When you latch onto a definitive answer—like “Carbs are evil”—you might temporarily feel better. But what happens when you can’t stick to that rigid rule? You either feel like a failure, or you discard the rule entirely and start the search for the next “right” answer.
This cycle of seeking simplicity, failing, and then seeking a new simple solution is exhausting and counterproductive. The reality is, most things in life, especially in areas as complex as nutrition and fitness, are nuanced. There’s rarely a single “right” answer.
Embracing the Nuance
So, what does this mean for you? It means embracing the nuance. Understand that multiple things can be true at once. Carbs aren’t inherently bad—they’re essential for energy—but maybe not all carbs are created equal, and the amount you need depends on your unique circumstances.
Recognize that your questions likely don’t have a simple, definitive answer. They require a nuanced response that considers all the factors at play. And most importantly, find a coach or expert who understands this and is willing to say, “It depends.”
Remember, losing weight and gaining health is about more than just following a set of rigid rules. It’s about understanding yourself, your body, and your life—and finding what works for you in the long term.
So next time you hear “It depends,” don’t get frustrated. Take it as a sign that you’re dealing with someone who respects the complexity of your journey and is committed to helping you find the best path forward.
